I have a confession to make. I believe in soul mates. As you can probably tell, your father and I are very in love. We may do things that will later embarrass you. Maybe you will be grossed out when you see us kissing. Maybe you’ll whine about it when your friends are around. But maybe, just maybe, you will learn what the love of a husband and wife can look like when God puts two people together. We hope that you will see what an adventure life can be when God places you with someone who pushes you toward Him, who challenges you to love others more, who teaches you how to lay down your life for someone else.
Now believe me, little one. Your father is the romantic of the family. You will find this out soon enough. (Just wait until you want to start dating.) I started out a bit cynical when it came to the idea that God could create two people in a world of seven billion (and counting) who were just supposed to somehow find each other and church bells would ring and all would be right with the world. Firstly, my idea of what it means to truly love was quite a bit off. Secondly, I didn’t know how big our God was at the time. (In case you are wondering, I still don’t know how big God is. That’s the beauty of a relationship with Him. Everyday there is something new, something wonderful, something terrifyingly amazing.)
The truth is that there isn’t a person that will complete you. God, and God alone, does that. Marriage is not between two halves that make a whole. God’s math doesn’t make sense to us. Marriage is an equation that looks something like this: 1+1=1. God has already completed the individuals (or at least, let’s hope so… otherwise marriage will be a little more difficult than it already is.) Romantic love and marriage don’t happen when you finally find someone who fills in all the gaps in your life. No, no, no. I doesn’t work that way. I do, however, believe that God has a perfect plan for each of us. That things don’t happen by accident. That, of course, God gives us the free will to pick whichever path we want, but that He always, always has a perfect option. I’d like to insert here for those that have been divorced and for those who married before they were believers that I am also a strong believer in redemption. I know that God can fix any broken situation and make it even better than we could ever believe possible. Like I said, He is a BIG God.
You and I, sweet boy, know that God calls people to certain places all over the world, that He calls people to certain professions and to certain cities. Why then would we not also believe that He calls us to do these things, to share these adventures, heartaches, joys, and struggles with certain people? Don’t get me wrong, that doesn’t mean that life will be all bunnies and rainbows. By the time you read this you will have experienced many times over my frustration when your dad still leaves the toilet seat up… or your dad’s frustration when I ask him to repeat something he’s said for the third time… or our everyday craziness because we are selfish people who don’t love perfectly. We are humans, and that’s saying enough, but your father and I believe that God gave each of us the perfect match in the other… just as He did for Adam and Eve. We believe in soul mates. We have living proof.
Walk this world gently, sweet boy. Love others well. Love God most. Know that He is big. Believe that He has a plan. He does. He always does.
I love you so much,